Convincing a loved one that rehab is the best option

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Motivating your loved one to go to rehab

Across the UK, thousands of people have turned to Executive Rehab Guide for essential advice and life-changing treatments.

Our expert team of doctors, nurses and therapists offer high-quality and evidence-based therapeutic treatments that provide our visitors and their families the support they need during this difficult time.

“Since opening our doors over 30 years ago, we have helped over 10,000 patients – more than 70% of these patients achieved long-term recovery due to our support services and therapies. Because we know that it’s not just about treating the disease, but the individual.”

If you’re concerned about someone you love – call us today on 0808 274 5168. One of our admissions specialists like Alison Mills will be there to provide caring and confidential advice 24/7.

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Unfortunately, the representations of addiction that we see in mainstream media, television and film (along with most other mental illnesses) are extremely limited and often problematic.

This contributes to stereotypes regarding rehab centres, and often justifies the common belief that you do not need rehab because “there are people who are a lot worse.”

Depression, anxiety and stress can cause an individual to change.

When depression takes over, your loved one may feel like all hope is lost. And it is in these cases, we see many of our visitors depend on substances to be able to cope.

Are concerned about someone you love? Has their depression and anxiety become unmanageable? We’re here to help.

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Substance dependence is a lot more common than you think

If you notice behavioural changes in your loved one or what seems to be a bad relationship with alcohol or drugs (or are dealing with these issues yourself) then rehab may be helpful.

Many of us like to convince ourselves that we are “in control,” the belief that we can overcome our dependencies with sheer willpower, is often fatal.

Thankfully, rehab provides the support needed to free those effected from their substance dependencies.

However, having this conversation with a loved one can, of course, be difficult. Below are some suggestions on how to address this conversation.

The person must be sober when you decide to raise these issues, as it can (understandably) be extremely emotional and cause conflict:

1. Avoid judgement, remove shame, normalise addiction

We live in a world which facilitates addictive behaviour.

We have constant access to “numbing” techniques to help us ignore our discomforts (food, drugs, alcohol, sex, work) and are often conditioned into suppressing the real issues as a result.

Addiction is when natural biological needs and desires become prioritised to the point of destructiveness.

It is important that this basic understanding of addiction is grasped before conversations with those affected occur, to avoid placing blame on the individual.

2. Encourage responsibility from a place of care

You must communicate to your loved one that rehab is something which will help them, not punish them.

If the goal is to reclaim their sense of self, improve their career, relationships and general quality of life – then rehab is the best option.

Although addiction is an illness that we very quickly lose control over, the affected person must accept responsibility and genuinely wants to change.

Explaining to someone how their habits may be negatively implicating their own health, life and the lives’ of those around them can be a good place to start

When to intervene.

3. Try to use “I” statements and avoid blame

If your loved one remains in a state of denial, pointing your finger at them and inciting shame will only cause further denial and often conflict.

If the person has not suggested rehab themselves, they are likely feeling some shame in regards to their behaviour, and statements such as, “you are ruining your life” or “you can’t keep living like this” can induce further resistance.

Instead, focus on your feelings “I want to help you,” “I am worried about your health,” or “We can work through this together.”

This does not mean you should centre yourself, but rather avoid accusatory language.

This should help avoid defensiveness from your loved one and allow them to see that you are trying to help them from a place of love and care.

4. Consider the treatment options available, educate yourself on addiction

Rehab is one of many options. If they are unwilling to attend an inpatient facility, make sure you have researched back-up options such as; visiting the GP, joining a community support group or attending individual therapy.

See: Addiction myths.

5. Do not wait for “rock bottom”

Castle Craig is the perfect place to escape and immerse yourself in recovery

As highlighted, many people would rather live in a state of denial than face the fact that they have an addiction problem.

We would prefer not to see ourselves as the distraught, downtrodden, hopeless alcoholics and addicts promoted by stereotypes.

However, the truth is that many successful, high-functioning people still suffer from drug and alcohol dependency.

Although it often takes a particularly painful experience for people to realise they have a severe problem, that doesn’t mean you must wait until your loved one has irrevocably destroyed their life before you intervene.

If you notice that someone you are close to is exhibiting unhealthy behaviour, it is better to say something sooner rather than later.

Speak to a therapist.

Addiction is a deadly disease and will continue to eat away at those affected until some kind of change is made.

If you care for your loved one enough to read this, your goal likely is to help them and to salvage your relationship with that person.

Keep this goal in mind, to avoid making them feel worse about an already horrendous illness, regardless of how (if) they have hurt you in the past.

Click here for more advice on how you can help at home.

Still unsure of how to move forward?

If you have read these tips and you are still struggling with how to talk to a loved one, or would like to know more about inpatient rehab, contact Castle Craig:

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